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A married women with two young children sent the following letter to her father, who has shunned her since she was disfellowshipping 4 years ago. He would not be considered a "good Witness" by their standards, yet he is still accepted because he never admitted to anything he has done, so the hypocrisy of his actions and reply is hard to believe.

His response is very brief, and the sentiment is typical of what disfellowshipped children receive from their parents.

Hi Daddy,

I love and miss you. I just want to be very clear about a few things.

  1. You shunning me is not making me want to go back to the Organization. If anything it is making me more sure that I never again want to be a part of a cult that splits families up.
  2. YOU are shunning ME. If at anytime you want to be in my families life, I will welcome you with open arms. I would love to have a Father again.
  3. I hate to bring up the past again, but please let me remind you that I stood by you unconditionally when you were not going to meetings, inactive, doing drugs, stealing, in jail, what have you. Yet it baffles my mind that you cannot do the same for me, your youngest daughter, who lives a very 'boring' life, where all I do is raise my kids and try to provide the most stable household for them.

I do not want to put my kids through what I went through growing up in the Organization. Pedophiles are all too common at the Kingdom Hall. If you need proof of that, just google Australian Royal Commission JW child abuse. The elders there have been covering up child sex abuse and admitted to DESTROYING DOCUMENTS to protect the society from looking bad. In other words, I have no desire or plans to go back to an organization that protects pedos or where my children wouldn't be safe. It's only a matter of time until the U.S. congregations go through the same kind of trials. The society is doling out millions, possibly billions-in pay-offs to victims of child molestation, but they don't want you to know that, of course. :)

I truly appreciate all you have done for me over the years, and I would love for you to meet my kids and be in their lives someday. I am very forgiving and willing to sweep the past under the rug if you ever decide to be my Dad again.

I wish you the best,


Dad's Reply:

I stopped reading this after paragraph 1. Is this Necessary Family Business? If so, I'll happily read. But not gonna risk my relationship with Jehovah if it's not. If you're not certain what Necessary Family Business is, ask an elder. Hope to see you back in the Truth whenever you're ready. That's all.

Posted Jan 2016

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